Things with my business are still going great, and continue to grow in ways I had never anticipated, so when something else showed up that sort of threw me for a loop, I found myself in a place I hadn’t been in a LONG time. I did a number on myself for a while and then realized that all I was doing was making myself feel bad. I know, sounds simplistic….but, I get it.

I went out of town for Thanksgiving (up to my parents…which is beautiful) and left the Tuesday before Thanksgiving. I was going to do some follow up on this matter that has come up and sent a little stress my way, but decided not to. I left it alone for the entire time and simply enjoyed my time with my family. When I got home on Sunday I got my mail from my neighbor…to find I had a check from an affiliate company (I’ve promoted a few of their products) for almost 5 times what I thought it would be!!! And honestly, I wasn’t even expecting it right now. I have no doubt in my mind that my ability to detach from my worries and just make sure that I enjoyed my time is what brought that check into my life a few days ago. And that doesn’t even include what’s happened in the last two days!

I’m sure I’m not the only person who has questioned what it is I should “do” with my life or what my life’s purpose is- and it was great to hear Abraham almost laugh at the notion that we are supposed to have one and only one thing that we want to do with our life. I have NEVER had a definitive idea as to what it was I was supposed to do, I’ve only known that I wanted to do something on my own (there’s a quality of life when you control your time that you just can’t put a price on) and that I need to be able to grow, work with other people, be creative and help people along the way. As I’ve let go of what it is I’m “supposed” to do, I’ve found something that I “love” to do! And for now, that’s enough for me.

The question that was raised to Abraham re: a significant other was that the person wanted to do something different career wise, yet didn’t think their “significant” other would get on board. The first thing Abraham said was that they needed to think about their “significant” other as their “insignficant” other (that was when I laughed out loud). That when we look for the approval of other people, we are not in vibration with what it is we truly want. If we place SO much emphasis on the opinion of other people, whose life are we living anyways? What I have found through much trial, error, heartache and finally peace- is that when you get in alignment with what it is that makes your heart sing (even if it’s not for the next 40 years), the people in your life (significant or otherwise), will get on board with you.

Anyways, I started reading just a little bit of it last night and came across something called the “What-if” game. This is nothing new to me, but when I read about it this time I got a completely different perspective on it. Quite a few years ago when I was talking with my therapist after I lost my husband, I did the whole “What if we hadn’t moved where we did/when we did/ etc. ?”….thinking at the time of course that I had some control over what had happened. I’ll never forget what she said to me (which finally makes sense now….I’m not really a slow learner, just stubborn! ). In a very kind, but direct way she said, “Ok Kim, if you’re going to play the what if game, you have to play it both ways”…..instantly I regretted what had come out of my mouth. As apposed to the “what-if” scenario that made things better, it was the “what-if” scenario in which things were worse. This might sound harsh, but I completely get it now (and did at the time, but it just took 5 years to sink in…). We’re quick to judge ourselves and decide that if we had done something differently, or not done something, things wouldn’t have turned out the way they did. Her point (other than sometimes the “what-if” game is simply not helpful) was that don’t assume that what you did (or didn’t do) isn’t what should have happened.

So, in starting to read the new Abraham book, the “What-if” game is a little different. Obviously with the title (and origin of the book), it’s about playing the “what-if” game to your advantage. “What-if” I followed my heart’s passion? “What- if” money weren’t an issue? “What-if” I was in perfect health? “What-if” I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be? Playing the “What-if” game like this puts you in touch with how it would feel if all of your “What-if’s” were true. The Law of Attraction is all about being in the right vibration with whatever it is you want. Feeling good will definitely get you headed in the right direction too. So now, whenever I think of the “What-if” game, I not only send out a silent thanks to my therapist, but I have fun with it and assume the best, not the worst.

So here is the recording of my first teleseminar with Hemal called “Your Business and the Law of Attraction”. I hosted this with Hemal on July 28th. If you haven’t visited the Law of Attraction page on this site, you can read more about Hemal there, but he also has a wonderful blog and you can read more about him, his work and how he helps people with the Law of Attraction and manifestion at : http://www.manifestingandlawofattraction.com

I have a group on facebook called The Women of Internet Marketing and Hemal has a group called Universal Law of Attraction. My group focuses on women who are building online businesses and Hemal’s group is, well, obviously about the Law of Attraction. We received some great questions before and during the teleseminar. I hope you enjoy it!

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As I was listening to Wayne (yeah, we’re on a first name basis), I heard something that almost brought tears to my eyes ( in a good way…I know, I’m a bit of a mush). He was talking about the morning, afternoon and evening of your life ( a theory I believe he said was Carl Jung’s) and that for most people, the afternoon of your life is in your 30’s, although that’s not the case for everyone. What got me so emotional though was when he said that you go from a state of ‘doing’ to a state of ‘being’, and that when you find your passion, it really just takes a hold of you. As I was driving, I realized that this is exactly where I’m at in my life right now. I’ve explored so many different things in my life, but nothing has ever taken a hold of me the way this business has. Not only am I getting to do something I love, but the most amazing people keep showing up in my life. I couldn’t stop this thing even if I tried (not that I want to). And what really inspires me is simply the way I feel when I’m a part of it. I haven’t lost site of the big picture- but it’s just not that important. I am so grateful for where I’m at that I’m just enjoying the ‘being’ of it all. The doing gets done without me having to think about it.

I may be being a bit ambiguous here, but the feeling that comes when your passion takes a hold of you is like nothing I’ve ever experience before. Hindsight is 20/20- but I can definitely say it’s been worth the wait.

In the post I made the other day about coming back from vacation and feeling out of sorts- I realized what I was feeling and basically just put it aside. I went about my day, same intentions (building the business, getting back on schedule) and just kept moving forward. I wouldn’t necessarily say I was ‘pretending’ to feel it, but I just sort of put the blinders on and went about doing what needed to be done…not worrying about how I was feeling.

The next morning, the universe provided exactly what I needed to put me back in a place where I was more or less feeling unstoppable! I spent the first 4 1/2 hrs. of the day on the phone (with Lesley in England and Pete in Canada….creating great things to come and learning amazing things with Photoshop!). I also realized (thank you Hemal), that working with these wonderful people I’m meeting isn’t about accountability as much as it is a motivating factor for me. When I’m collaborating with other people, I feel great. Which of course, is really what it’s all about.