Comments on: Letting go of perfectionism http://theselfhelpchick.com/personal/let-it-be/ Sat, 24 Jan 2009 04:19:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Deb Hansen-Ching http://theselfhelpchick.com/personal/let-it-be/comment-page-1/#comment-3 Deb Hansen-Ching Mon, 02 Jun 2008 04:32:57 +0000 http://theselfhelpchick.com/?p=24#comment-3 Hi, Kim, Am reminded of two things: My algebra teacher, Mr. Bell, who always said, "make an educated guess" when a student drew a blank on a question he posed in class. Also, as I recall, women working on needlepoint or embroidery always left a small mistake to prove that the work had been done by hand and not machine (or at least that was the excuse). The fact that perfect is just a concept and never a reality can only make the errors worth making. Deb Hi, Kim,
Am reminded of two things:
My algebra teacher, Mr. Bell, who always said, “make an educated guess” when a student drew a blank on a question he posed in class.
Also, as I recall, women working on needlepoint or embroidery always left a small mistake to prove that the work had been done by hand and not machine (or at least that was the excuse).
The fact that perfect is just a concept and never a reality can only make the errors worth making.

Deb

]]> By: Clay Franklin http://theselfhelpchick.com/personal/let-it-be/comment-page-1/#comment-4 Clay Franklin Mon, 26 May 2008 08:43:53 +0000 http://theselfhelpchick.com/?p=24#comment-4 Hi Kim, Inspirational reading. My boss used to tell me "don't boil the ocean" or "just bring me a 80% solution". For me I am amiable analytical and sometimes I get too analytical :-) I need to be sure I am not wasting time on perfection when "Just doing it RIght" will suffice. As for letting go. The more I let go of, the more new things come into my life. So, I have become a compulsive throw stuff away or donate it every day person. I'll be back...Thank again, Clay Hi Kim,

Inspirational reading.
My boss used to tell me “don’t boil the ocean” or “just bring me a 80% solution”.
For me I am amiable analytical and sometimes I get too analytical :-)
I need to be sure I am not wasting time on perfection when “Just doing it RIght” will suffice.

As for letting go. The more I let go of, the more new things come into my life.
So, I have become a compulsive throw stuff away or donate it every day person.

I’ll be back…Thank again,
Clay

]]> By: Paula Chaffee Scardamalia http://theselfhelpchick.com/personal/let-it-be/comment-page-1/#comment-6 Paula Chaffee Scardamalia Sun, 25 May 2008 21:04:13 +0000 http://theselfhelpchick.com/?p=24#comment-6 Kim, Why are we so hard on ourselves? And so unforgiving of our shortcomings? We don't expect this from others, why ourselves? And yes, children are really teachers in our imperfection-- and in humility. I raised three sons with my husband. I know just how imperfect I am, but am very proud of how they turned out, regardless of my "mistakes". I talk about in my book, how some of the Native American rug weavers will weave a thread that looks like a mistake. It's done intentionally, because this imperfection is seen as a path for spirit. Perfection being the realm of the gods...and goddesses! Viva la imperfection! Kim,

Why are we so hard on ourselves? And so unforgiving of our shortcomings? We don’t expect this from others, why ourselves?

And yes, children are really teachers in our imperfection– and in humility. I raised three sons with my husband. I know just how imperfect I am, but am very proud of how they turned out, regardless of my “mistakes”.

I talk about in my book, how some of the Native American rug weavers will weave a thread that looks like a mistake. It’s done intentionally, because this imperfection is seen as a path for spirit. Perfection being the realm of the gods…and goddesses!

Viva la imperfection!

]]> By: BZ Riger http://theselfhelpchick.com/personal/let-it-be/comment-page-1/#comment-5 BZ Riger Fri, 23 May 2008 14:23:58 +0000 http://theselfhelpchick.com/?p=24#comment-5 Kim, I remember about 12 years ago I heard someone say "I am doing the best I can, and that is good enough" I was stopped in my tracks by the simplicity of the comment; my mind screamed you need to do better. I really took a long moment to think that I could do the best I could and that was perfect... In that moment I made the decision to release perfection and to really step into doing the best I could do in each moment. I am thrilled with the decision and how it's opened up a new way of being me. I like adding your idea of "let it be" to different situations that come up that being perfect may tempt me again. It makes life flow with more ease. BZ Kim,
I remember about 12 years ago I heard someone say “I am doing the best I can, and that is good enough” I was stopped in my tracks by the simplicity of the comment; my mind screamed you need to do better.

I really took a long moment to think that I could do the best I could and that was perfect… In that moment I made the decision to release perfection and to really step into doing the best I could do in each moment. I am thrilled with the decision and how it’s opened up a new way of being me.

I like adding your idea of “let it be” to different situations that come up that being perfect may tempt me again. It makes life flow with more ease.
BZ

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